Friends and Family

My Children,

Here is but one more lesson I can try to pass on to you. Work hard on your relationships, choose carefully, choose well and then work on keeping a relationship with the people in your life.

Relationships are like a garden that must be watered, nurtured, allowed to grow in the sun and weed as needed.

It seems that I have been so focused on being a mother and a mate that I have forgotten some of my skills of making and keeping friends. I am now finding it harder to make new friends then I ever did before. Partly age, partly being settled in my ways and not having the youthful patience for others drama.

In addition I have lost the relationships I thought I had with family over the last few years (who knew my parents getting a divorce would be so hard on all of us adult children) finding out who my relatives really where and are is not always easy. I still suffer bouts of sadness from the loss of this extended family.

I have to be quite honest however when I say that many of these relationships I have lost or let go over the years have happened for the best. I have protected my children, myself and sometimes my very identity by refusing to have unhealthy connections to others.

Now I am building new friendships, building new ties to others. It is work, and I am sometimes fearful causing me to bounce between being to clingy or not attentive enough.

If you can learn from my mistakes and from my successes then you will always have a strong net work of people around you. The idea that blood is thicker then water is poppy cock, sometimes the family you make out of friends is stronger then the family you are born to.

Choose well my children and may you always be surrounded by people that love and support you to be the best your meant to be.

Always,

Mama